June 13th, 2025
by Dr. Josh Franklin
by Dr. Josh Franklin
Loneliness is one of the most common human emotions, yet it can be one of the most difficult to overcome. Even as Christians who know God is always present, we can still experience deep feelings of isolation. Dr. Gary Oliver, a Christian counselor, has offered five practical steps to help conquer loneliness: [see Real Men Have Feelings Too (Chicago, Ill: Moody, 1993), 153-162.]
1. Look Up: Develop Your Relationship with God
Remember that as Christians, we're never truly alone. God promises, "I am with you always, even to the end of the age" (Matthew 28:20). Instead of praying "God be with me," try praying "Lord, help me be more aware of Your presence."
Other Verses to Remember:
2. Look Behind: Reflect on Yourself
Take time to analyze why you feel lonely. Complete this sentence: "I experience loneliness when..." This self-reflection might reveal unrealistic expectations, an unhealthy focus on weaknesses rather than strengths, or patterns of holding people at arm's length due to past rejection.
3. Look At: Learn to Communicate with Others
In our digital age, we must intentionally develop communication skills:
4. Look to Others: Develop Relationships
Remember that "a man who has friends must himself be friendly" (Proverbs 18:24). Take the initiative! Don't wait for others to approach you - be the one who reaches out first.
5. Look Around: Find Creative Solutions
Talk with people who have overcome loneliness. What worked for them? Consider how you might help others who are lonely. Sometimes in reaching out to serve others, we find our own loneliness diminishing.
This week, take concrete steps to address loneliness in your life:
Remember, God designed us for relationship - first with Him, then with others. You don't have to face loneliness alone.
Heavenly Father, thank You for Your Word, even on difficult topics like loneliness. Help me to remember that You are always with me. Strengthen my awareness of Your presence and guide me to build relationships with others. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Adapted from "God's Answer for Loneliness": https://www.joshfranklin.org/media/5md6t56/7-god-s-answer-for-loneliness
1. Look Up: Develop Your Relationship with God
Remember that as Christians, we're never truly alone. God promises, "I am with you always, even to the end of the age" (Matthew 28:20). Instead of praying "God be with me," try praying "Lord, help me be more aware of Your presence."
Other Verses to Remember:
- "Casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you" (1 Peter 5:7)
- "The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want" (Psalm 23:1)
- "I will never leave you nor forsake you" (Hebrews 13:5)
2. Look Behind: Reflect on Yourself
Take time to analyze why you feel lonely. Complete this sentence: "I experience loneliness when..." This self-reflection might reveal unrealistic expectations, an unhealthy focus on weaknesses rather than strengths, or patterns of holding people at arm's length due to past rejection.
3. Look At: Learn to Communicate with Others
In our digital age, we must intentionally develop communication skills:
- Quality communication takes time: Don't rush relationships.
- Communication involves more than words: Pay attention to non-verbal cues.
- Communication involves listening: Ecclesiastes 3:7 reminds us there's "a time to be silent."
- Small talk matters: These seemingly trivial conversations are often where real relationships begin.
4. Look to Others: Develop Relationships
Remember that "a man who has friends must himself be friendly" (Proverbs 18:24). Take the initiative! Don't wait for others to approach you - be the one who reaches out first.
5. Look Around: Find Creative Solutions
Talk with people who have overcome loneliness. What worked for them? Consider how you might help others who are lonely. Sometimes in reaching out to serve others, we find our own loneliness diminishing.
This week, take concrete steps to address loneliness in your life:
- Cultivate awareness of God's presence: Set aside time each day to acknowledge that God is with you, reading Scripture passages that remind you of His constant presence.
- Take initiative in relationships: Identify one person you can reach out to this week. Send a text, make a call, or invite them for coffee.
- What ministry or service opportunity could you join where you'll work alongside others toward a common goal? Sign up this week.
Remember, God designed us for relationship - first with Him, then with others. You don't have to face loneliness alone.
Heavenly Father, thank You for Your Word, even on difficult topics like loneliness. Help me to remember that You are always with me. Strengthen my awareness of Your presence and guide me to build relationships with others. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Adapted from "God's Answer for Loneliness": https://www.joshfranklin.org/media/5md6t56/7-god-s-answer-for-loneliness
Dr. Josh Franklin
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